C'mon bring it
Mar. 20th, 2011 10:34 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kkscatnip
Amagad, I just had a discussion with Em about words and what word we would use to represent each other. We'll be attending Poly Weekend Atlanta this weekend (yep, I am way excited, thanks for asking) and I thought that having a word other than "friend" to describe her might be important.
Fuckbuddy? Woefully inadequate, as we are also very good friends.
Friend with Benefits? A mouthful, and makes me feel like I'm still in college with no plans to graduate anytime soon. (Also, it leaves out the important fact that I really care about her!)
Girlfriend? No, that's not at all right, and I don't care to quantify why.
Paramour? Has negative connotations and I don't want to even open up that can of worms.
We ended up deciding on "lover", because it conveys generally what we are to each other, I think.
It makes me feel like, yeah, I am legit poly now (although as![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
tensergorn said I have the basic poly precept that the amount of love a person has in them is not limited down and have had it down for years of my life) and I think it's just a really damn good feeling.
Who knew that identity could be so empowering! I'll have to think more on this.
Fuckbuddy? Woefully inadequate, as we are also very good friends.
Friend with Benefits? A mouthful, and makes me feel like I'm still in college with no plans to graduate anytime soon. (Also, it leaves out the important fact that I really care about her!)
Girlfriend? No, that's not at all right, and I don't care to quantify why.
Paramour? Has negative connotations and I don't want to even open up that can of worms.
We ended up deciding on "lover", because it conveys generally what we are to each other, I think.
It makes me feel like, yeah, I am legit poly now (although as
tensergorn said I have the basic poly precept that the amount of love a person has in them is not limited down and have had it down for years of my life) and I think it's just a really damn good feeling. Who knew that identity could be so empowering! I'll have to think more on this.
